If you think that parenting difficulties may end after your divorce is over, it may not be. In fact, it may only be the beginning to a new set of problems. Many couples end up divorcing because differences in parenting styles lead to other issues that doom the relationship, and these problems may continue now that you live under separate roofs.
A recent story about Jon and Kate Gosselin (formerly of the reality show, “Jon and Kate Plus Eight”) exemplifies this notion. In a recent interview with Oprah Winfrey, Mr. Gosselin explained how he and Kate do not really communicate except for things pertaining to their eight children. “We’re just moving in totally different directions,” he said to Winfrey, “I really don’t know what goes on in Kate’s house, and she doesn’t know what goes on in mine. There is no cooperation.”
We find this story important for our readers to debunk the myth that all co-parenting issues disappear after a divorce. Just as married parents must cooperate to maintain their relationship, divorced parents must learn how to do so with their joint children. It is not unheard of for children of divorced parents to have issues that must be addressed by both parents, such as depression, academic issues, and problems with self-esteem.
Also, parents have to work together when children attempt to get their way (i.e. telling mom that dad allowed something when he didn’t actually do so). So with that in mind, parents must realize that even though their romantic relationship has ended, they are still parents and must find a common ground for the benefit of the kids.
Source: Xfinity.comcast.net “Jon Gosselin on ex wife Kate: ‘No cooperation-No relationship“
